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NUMBERS 16,17,18,19 AND 20 RULES OF SUCCESS

16. Make an effort to be humorous throughout the day. Not only is it beneficial from a physical viewpoint but it diffuses tension in difficult circumstances and creates an excellent atmosphere wherever you are. It was recently reported that members of the Tauripan tribe of South America have a ritual where they awake in the middle of the night to tell each other jokes. Even tribesmen in the deepest sleep wake to enjoy the laugh and then return to their state of slumber in seconds. 
17. Become a highly disciplined time manager. There are roughly 168 hours in a week. This surely allows plenty of time for achievement of the many goals we desire to accomplish. Be ruthless with your time. Set aside a few minutes each morning to plan your day. Plan around your priorities and focus on not only those tasks which are immediate but not important (i.e., many telephone calls) but especially on those which are important but not urgent, for these allow for the greatest personal and professional development. Important but not immediate activities are those which produce long-term, sustainable benefits and include exercise, strategic planning, the development of relationships and professional education. Never let the things which matter most be placed in the backseat as compared to those that matter least. 
18. Associate only with positive, focused people who you can learn from and who will not drain your valuable energy with complaining and uninspiring attitudes. By developing relationships with those committed to constant improvement and the pursuit of the best that life has to offer, you will have plenty of company on your path to the top of whatever mountain you seek to climb. 
19. Stephen Hawking, one of the great modern physicists of the world, is reported to have said that we are on a minor planet of a very average star located within the outer limits of one of a hundred thousand million galaxies. Are your problems really significant in light of this? You walk this Earth for but a short time. Why not become devoted to having only a wonderful experience. Why not dedicate yourself to leaving a powerful legacy to the world? Sit down now and write out a list of all that you have in your life. Start first with your health or your family - the things we often take for granted. Put down the country we live in and the food we eat. Do not stop until you have written down fifty items. Once every few days, go through this list - you will be uplifted and recognize the richness of your existence.
  20. You must have a mission statement in life. This is simply a set of guiding principles which clearly state where you are going and where you want to be at the end of your life. A mission statement embodies your values. It is your personal lighthouse keeping you steadily on the course of your dreams. Over a period of one month, set a few hours aside to write down five or ten principles which will govern your life and which will keep you focused at all times. Examples might be to consistently serve others, to be a considerate citizen, to become highly wealthy or to serve as a powerful leader. Whatever the mission statement of your life, refine it and review it regularly. Then when something adverse happens or someone tries to pull you off course, you quickly and precisely return to your chosen path with the full knowledge that you are moving in the direction that you have selected. 

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NUMBER 11,12,13,14 AND 15 SECRETS OF SUCCESS

 11. Light a candle beside you when you are reading in the evening. It is most relaxing and creates a wonderful, soothing atmosphere. Make your home an oasis from the frenzied world outside. Fill it with great music, great books and great friends.  
12. To enhance your concentration and powers of focus, count your steps when you walk. This is a particularly strong technique. Take six steps while taking a long inhale, hold your breath for another six steps, and then exhale for six steps. If six steps is too long for the breaths, do whatever you feel comfortable with. You will feel very alert, refreshed, internally quiet and centered after this exercise. So many people allow their minds to be filled with mental chatter. All peak performers appreciate the power of a quiet, clear mind which will concentrate steadily on all important tasks.  
13. Learn to meditate effectively. The mind is naturally a very noisy machine which wants to move from one subject to another like an unchained monkey. One must learn to restrain and discipline it if one is to achieve anything of substance and to be peaceful. Meditation for twenty minutes in the morning and twenty minutes in the evening will certainly provide you with exceptional results if regularly practiced for six months. Learned sages of the East have been advancing the many benefits of meditation for over 5000 years.  
14. Learn to be still. The average person doesn't spend even 30 minutes a month in total silence and tranquility. Develop the skill of sitting quietly, enjoying the powerful silence for at least ten minutes a day. Simply think about what is important to you in your life. Reflect on your mission. Silence indeed is golden. As the Zen master once said, it is the space between the bars that holds the cage.  
15. Enhance your will-power; it is likely one of the best training programs you can invest in. Here are some ideas to strengthen your will and become a stronger person:  a. Do not let your mind float like a piece of paper in the wind. Work hard to keep it focused at all times. When doing a task, think of nothing else. When walking to work, count the steps that it takes to get all the way to the office. This is not easy but your mind will soon understand that you hold its reins and not vice versa. Your mind must eventually become as still as a candle flame in a corner where there is no draft.  b. Your will is like a muscle. You must first exercise it and then push before it gets stronger. This necessarily involves short term pain but be assured that the improvements will come and will touch your character in a most positive way. When you are hungry, wait another hour before your meal. When you are labouring over a difficult task and your mind is prompting you to pick up the latest magazine for a break or to get up and go talk to a friend, curb the impulse. Soon you will be able to sit for hours in a precisely concentrated state. Sir Issac Newton, one of the greatest classical physicists the world has produced, once said: "if I have done the public any service, it is due to patient thought." Newton had a remarkable ability to sit quietly and think without interruption for very long periods of time. If he can develop this so can you.  c. You can also build your will-power by restraint in your conduct with others. Speak less (use the 60/40 Rule = listen 60% of the time and speak a mere 40%, if that). This will not only make you more popular but you will learn much wisdom as everyone we meet, every day has something to teach us. Also restrain the urge to gossip or to condemn someone who you feel has made a mistake. Stop complaining and develop a cheerful, vital and strong personality. You will greatly influence others.  d. When a negative thought comes to your mind, immediately replace it with one that is positive. Positive always dominates over the negative and your mind has to be conditioned to think only the best thoughts. Negative thinking is a conditioned process whereby the negative patterns are established over and over. Rid yourself of any limitations and become a powerful positive thinker.  

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NUMBER 7,8,9 AND 10 SECRETS OF SUCCESS
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"  7. Set aside every Sunday evening for yourself and be strongly disciplined with this habit. Use this period to plan your week, visualize your encounters and what you want to achieve, to read new materials and inspirational books, to listen to soft soothing music and to simply relax. This habit will serve as your anchor to keep you focused, motivated and effective throughout the coming week.  8. Always remember the key principle that the quality of your life is the quality of your communication. This means the way you communicate with others and, more importantly, the way you communicate with yourself. What you focus on is what you get. If you look for the positive this is what you get. This is a fundamental law of Nature.  9. Stay on purpose, not on outcome. In other words, do the task because it is what you love to do or because it will help someone or is a valuable exercise. Don't do it for the money or the recognition. Those will come naturally. This is the way of the world.  10. Laugh for five minutes in the mirror each morning. Steve Martin does. Laughter activates many beneficial chemicals within the body that place us into a very joyous state. Laughter also returns the body to a state of balance. Laughter therapy has been regularly used to heal persons with varied ailments and is a wonderful tonic for life's ills. While the average 4 year old laughs 500 times a day, the average adult is lucky to laugh 15 times a day. Revitalize the habit of laughter, it will put far more living into your life.

Read the latest from SAP today. Stay inspired and motivated.Prevent Fatigue and Worry and Keep Your Energy and Spirits High  Rest before you get tired.  “Do what the Army does—take frequent rests. Do what your heart does—rest before you get tired, and you will add one hour a day to your waking life.” —Dale Carnegie  Learn to relax at your work.  “Relax in odd moments Work in a comfortable position Check yourself four or five times a day and say to yourself, ‘Am I making my work harder than it actually is? Test yourself at the end of the day. If I am tired, it is not because of the work I have done, but because of the way I have done it.’ ” —Dale Carnegie  Protect your health and appearance by relaxing at home.  “Nothing will make you look older sooner than tension and fatigue. Nothing will work such havoc on your freshness and looks if you’re going to get the worry kinks out [you’ve] got to relax.” —Dale Carnegie  Apply these four good working habits:  a. Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.  b. Do things in the order of their importance.  c. When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to make a decision.  d. Learn to organize, deputize, and supervise.  “The mere sight of a desk littered with unanswered mail and reports and memos is enough to breed confusion, tension, and worries Executives who build up big businesses and don’t learn to organize, deputize, and supervise, usually pop off [die] with heart trouble.” —Dale Carnegie  Put enthusiasm into your work.  “We talk a lot about the importance of physical exercise to wake us up out of the half sleep in which so many of us walk around. But we need, even more, some spiritual and mental exercises every morning to stir us into action. Give yourself a pep talk every day.” —Dale Carnegie  Don’t worry about insomnia.  “Remember that no one was ever killed by a lack of sleep. Worrying about insomnia causes far more damage than sleeplessness.” —Dale Carnegie

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Don’t Worry about Criticism  Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment.  “When you are kicked or criticized, remember that it is often done because it gives the kicker a feeling of importance. It often means that you are accomplishing something and are worthy of attention.” —Dale Carnegie  Do the very best you can.  “I do the very best I know how --- the very best I can; and I mean to keep on doing so until the end. If the end brings me out all right, then what is said against me won’t matter. If the end brings me out wrong, then ten angels saying I was right would make no difference.” —Abraham Lincoln  Analyze your own mistakes and criticize yourself.  “Let’s keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticize ourselves. Since we can’t hope to be perfect, let’s do what E.H. Little did: let’s ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive criticism.” —Dale Carnegie

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Prevent Fatigue and Worry and Keep Your Energy and Spirits High  Rest before you get tired.  “Do what the Army does—take frequent rests. Do what your heart does—rest before you get tired, and you will add one hour a day to your waking life.” —Dale Carnegie  Learn to relax at your work.  “Relax in odd moments Work in a comfortable position Check yourself four or five times a day and say to yourself, ‘Am I making my work harder than it actually is? Test yourself at the end of the day. If I am tired, it is not because of the work I have done, but because of the way I have done it.’ ” —Dale Carnegie  Protect your health and appearance by relaxing at home.  “Nothing will make you look older sooner than tension and fatigue. Nothing will work such havoc on your freshness and looks if you’re going to get the worry kinks out [you’ve] got to relax.” —Dale Carnegie  Apply these four good working habits:  a. Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.  b. Do things in the order of their importance.  c. When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to make a decision.  d. Learn to organize, deputize, and supervise.  “The mere sight of a desk littered with unanswered mail and reports and memos is enough to breed confusion, tension, and worries Executives who build up big businesses and don’t learn to organize, deputize, and supervise, usually pop off [die] with heart trouble.” —Dale Carnegie  Put enthusiasm into your work.  “We talk a lot about the importance of physical exercise to wake us up out of the half sleep in which so many of us walk around. But we need, even more, some spiritual and mental exercises every morning to stir us into action. Give yourself a pep talk every day.” —Dale Carnegie  Don’t worry about insomnia.  “Remember that no one was ever killed by a lack of sleep. Worrying about insomnia causes far more damage than sleeplessness.” —Dale Carnegie

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Cultivate a Mental Attitude that Will Bring You Peace and Happiness  Fill your mind with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope.  Dale Carnegie says, “If we think miserable thoughts, we will be miserable. If we think fear thoughts, we will be fearful.” Dr. Norman Vincent Peale observes, “What you think, you are.”  Never try to get even with your enemies.  “I trapped four-legged skunks along the hedgerows in Missouri; and as a man, encountered a few two-legged skunks on the sidewalks of New York. I have found from sad experience that it doesn’t pay to stir up either kind.” —Dale Carnegie  Expect ingratitude.  “It is natural for people to forget to be grateful If we want to find happiness, let’s stop thinking about gratitude or ingratitude and give for the inner joy of giving.” —Dale Carnegie  Count your blessings—not your troubles.  “All the days of our years, we have been living in a fairyland of beauty, but we have been too blind to see, too satiated to enjoy.” —Dale Carnegie  Do not imitate others.  “No one wants a phony. Nobody ever wants a counterfeit coin Make the most of what nature gave you.” —Dale Carnegie  Try to profit from your losses.  “When the wise man is handed a lemon, he says: ‘What can I learn from this misfortune? How can I improve my situation? How can I turn this lemon into lemonade?’ ” —Dale Carnegie  Create happiness for others.  “Thinking of others will not only keep you from worrying about yourself; it will also help you make a lot of friends and have a lot of fun.” —Dale Carnegie

The Perfect Way to Conquer Worry  Pray.  Prayer has a practical side for people with faith and those who do not have a particular faith. “Prayer puts into words exactly what is troubling us Prayer gives a sense of sharing our burdens Prayer puts into force an active principle of doing.” —Dale Carnegie

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Basic Techniques in Analyzing Worry  “We must equip ourselves to deal with different kinds of worries by learning the three basic steps of problem analysis Obvious stuff? Yes, You and I must use it too if we are going to solve the problems that are harassing us and turning our days and nights into veritable hells.” —Dale Carnegie  Get all the facts.  Weigh all the facts—then come to a decision.  Once a decision is reached, act!  Write out and answer the following questions:  a. What is the problem?  b. What are the causes of the problem?  c. What are the possible solutions to the problem? d. What is the best possible solution?  “Can you apply these questions to your business problems? To repeat my challenge—they can reduce your worries by 50%.” —Dale Carnegie  “It is not work that kills men; it is worry. Work is healthy; you can hardly put more upon a man than he can bear. Worry is rust upon the blade. It is not the revolution that destroys the machinery but the friction.” —Henry Ward Beecher social reformer

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Break the Worry Habit Before It Breaks You 

• Keep busy.  “The secret of being miserable is to have the leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not.” —George Bernard Shaw  
• Don’t fuss about trifles.  Benjamin Disraeli, statesman, said, “Life is too short to be little.” So, let us not major in the minors.  
• Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries.  “We could probably outlaw 90% of our worries right now if we would cease our fretting long enough to discover whether, by the law of averages, there was any justification for our worries.” —Dale Carnegie  
• Cooperate with the inevitable.  “If we rail and kick against it and grow bitter, we won’t change the inevitable; but we will change ourselves You can either bend with the inevitable sleet storms of life —or you can resist them and break.” —Dale Carnegie  
• Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth and refuse to give it more.  “We are fools when we overpay for a thing in terms of what it takes out of our very existence.” —Dale Carnegie  
• Don’t worry about the past.  “Let the past bury its dead. Don’t saw sawdust.” —Dale Carnegie

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Fundamental Principles for Overcoming Worry  

• Live in “day-tight compartments.”  As a ship has compartments that can be sealed to prevent water in one compartment from flooding another, so too do we need to seal off the past and the future. “We cannot live one moment in either of those eternities and to try to do so could ruin both our minds and bodies. We can be content to live the only time we possibly can—today.” —Dale Carnegie  
• How to face trouble:  Mr. Carnegie calls this a “magic formula” for dealing with worry situations. Accepting the worst that can happen liberates us from a violent contest with reality. It frees us to move into problem solving mode.  

            a. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen?”  

            b. Prepare to accept the worst. 

            c. Try to improve on the worst.  

• Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health.  Dr. Alexis Carrel, Nobel Prize Winner in Medicine, says that “Business people who do not know how to fight worry, die young.” How many of the things we worry about are worth that price?  

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INFLUENCE

Gain Cooperation  Gaining cooperation means we help others become committed to working as a team. If we get “compliance,” it is only a matter of time before results suffer and the team becomes mired in unmanageable conflict or, worse yet, becomes indifferent to the goals of the organization and non-committal to one another. The best way to gain cooperation is to be cooperative ourselves and to be emotionally intelligent about the needs of the team.  Dale Carnegie provides 12 principles for gaining cooperation. Not only do these principles help us win people to our way of thinking; they help us tap the energy and intelligence of the team. This encourages innovation, cooperation, and bottom-line results!  

• The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.  An argument is 90% emotion and 10% nonsense. A mature professional avoids arguments.  
• Show respect for the other person’s opinion. Never say, “You’re wrong.”  Avoid making others defensive. It shrinks the channels of communication. Simply ask why they feel the way they do.  
• If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.  This disarms conflict and opens up lines of communication. 
•  Begin in a friendly way.  If we aren’t open and friendly, winning people to our way of thinking is nearly impossible.  
• Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.  It’s important to begin by agreeing on something. Then the challenging ideas are more easily accepted.  
• Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.  Not only will the person share information, but he or she might “talk themselves” into cooperating. 
•  Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.  What is right, not who is right, is most important. By following this principle, we build another person’s confidence and willingness to share ideas and strengthen the team.  
• Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.  The other person’s point of view may be clearer than ours. Learn what you can from other points of view.  
• Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.  Being understanding and sympathetic is a sure way of keeping channels of communication open.  
• Appeal to the nobler motives.  Most people will work very hard for ideals and the higher aims of the organization if they know what they are and how they apply in a particular situation.  
• Dramatize your ideas.  A unique idea should have a unique package. Use creative approaches to help sell your idea.  
• Throw down a challenge.  Most of us have a competitive side. Challenging others to action often produces unexpected positive results.

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RAPPORT

Enhance Relationships and Build Trust  The continuum for growing our people and leadership skills starts with changing ourselves. Mr. Carnegie encouraged us to "become a friendlier person" so that we could earn trust and enhance relationships. Enhancing relationships is the essential foundation for being more influential and becoming a highly respected leader. 

•  Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.  Criticizing another person not only damages that person’s reputation, but puts a dent in our own.  
• Give honest, sincere appreciation.  Appreciation builds our image faster than any other practice. After all, the success of every job demands cooperation and effort from others. People contribute to our success as much as we contribute to theirs.  
• Arouse in the other person an eager want.  As business professionals, we are constantly selling our ideas. But people consent to help for their own reasons, not ours. If we make it clear how our ideas will benefit them, there is no limit to the cooperation we could receive.  
• Become genuinely interested in other people.  Regardless of the physical or financial assets a company may have, it’s the people who make it successful. They are an organization’s key asset, and getting to know them should be as high a priority as learning the technical aspects of one’s job. The key is to be genuine. Don’t get a reputation for only being interested when you want something. Getting to know others should always be mutually beneficial.  
• Smile.  Whether or not we’re pleasant to be around depends less on the situation than on our behavior. Rapport in business is fueled by seemingly minor considerations, such as a friendly, accessible demeanor and a welcoming smile.  
• Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.  Using a person’s name is crucial, especially when meeting those we don’t see very often. Respect and acceptance stem from simple acts, such as remembering a person’s name and using it whenever appropriate.  
• Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.  A business runs on information, so what better way to learn what's going on than following this principle? We must listen with everything we’ve got. How we listen says volumes about how we think. Be focused, engaged, and sincere.  
• Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.  Truth be told, we spend most of our time thinking about ourselves. Why not create strong business relationships by putting away our own concerns and talking about what others are interested in for a while?  
• Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely.  In our dealings with others, building them up shows we appreciate their contribution. The bond that results can help us withstand the pressures of our own day-to-day struggles.

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Wrapping Up

 What is stopping you from relentlessly pursuing your great dreams? Could it be your circumstances? Are you holding back thinking that as soon as the situation changes, you will seize the opportunity to do what you really want? If you keep on telling these things to yourself, you might need to assess your situation. Could it be possible that there is something else holding you back? Is it fear? Is it lack of power and courage?  Why You Need to Own Power and Courage  There are lots of fears that can influence you in deceptive and subtle ways. There are plenty of them that you probably do not even realize exist. Even if you realize your fears, you do not have the immediate courage to break through and take the necessary actions.  Sometimes, people unconsciously allow fear to stand between themselves and their greatest dreams. Sadly, people lose or abandon their dreams as they have allows their fears to block their path towards the things they desire to achieve. What’s worse is that people rationalize their decisions with logical excuses.  This happens to many people, but it doesn’t need to happen to you.  Do not allow your fears to stop you from doing the things you think right for you and destroy your greatest dreams. With simple tweaks on how you view things in life, you can learn how to transform your fears to positive energy and use them to your advantage.   How to Develop Courage  You can own power and courage by shifting your focus onto the things you stand to gain as well as lose from a situation. Doing this can actually change your perception of your current situation. This simple shift of focus can actually leave you feeling more empowered to take action and be courageous.  Many people have the habit of always seeing the negative side of a bad situation. If you think like them, if you focus on seeing how huge the problem is, rather than seeing the potential benefits it can provide, it will stop you from taking action to solve the problem. If you focus on the potential losses, you will create fear that will further add to your negativity.  If you have this kind of mindset, your desire to move toward your dreams will not give you enough courage to overcome your fear and take necessary actions. As a result, you will hold yourself back and end up accomplishing less than what you are capable of.  You may find it helpful to make a list of the feats that you have to try to overcome. Simply, put yourself in the situations that you fear. In each situation that leaves you with the feeling of fear or makes you hesitate, evaluate the exact thing that’s holding you back. Why are you afraid and what is it that you are afraid of? Are those things likely to occur, or is there only a slight chance?  Get another sheet of paper and list down the benefits of overcoming your fear. Try to be as optimistic and as specific as you can. Keep in mind that the fear will strengthen your focus on the negative possibilities and it will make the benefits less important. This means that you need to work harder to emphasize the positive benefits of overcoming your fear.  Looking at the two sheets of paper, you can determine the valid reasons to move forward. Should you decide to hold back a little longer, it’s your decision and there nothing wrong it as long as you do not allow unrealistic fears to rule your life. If you decide to take action and move forward now, you still need time to work on building your courage before you act. Remember that getting into the situation that you fear will make you feel more stressed. So, you need to create a plan of how you will execute the things that you really want to do.  Remember that the core of courage is determination. You can only own power and courage if you are determined to conquer your fear with no hesitation or excuses. Good luck!

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Faulting Others

Some people start to blame or to fault everyone around in the event that bad things happen. While faulting others has become a common habit, there is not common reason behind it. There are many different reasons that make a person blame others. Understanding these reasons can help you deal with people who fault others or break your own habit of this if you are one of these people.  What Are the Reasons Behind the Habit of Faulting Others?  •    Loss of Control – Some people who lose control of a situation panic and try to restore their sense of control over the situation by faulting others. Fear can be behind the act of blaming others.   •    To Control Other People – Some people who want to control others start by blaming them to make them feel that they have done bad things. If someone wants you do something on their behalf, they might blame you for changing your attitude or behavior. They will label you selfish, a snob, or arrogant. This is one of the common methods used by your friends to control you using blame.   •    Refusing to Admit Responsibility – Some people cannot admit mistakes and failures, so they fault others to take responsibility for their actions. One common example is when you say that you were late to work because of traffic, while you could have avoided the traffic jam if you woke up earlier.   •    Unwilling to Accept the Situation – Faulting others is common to people who cannot accept the things that have had happened to them. If they have learned how to accept events properly, faulting others will not happen.   It’s Time to Stop the Habit of Faulting Others  If you have the habit of faulting others, you can stop that habit through these tips.   Look for the Cause of the Problem  When things don’t work out the way they should, it’s easy to be creative and find reasons to blame others. To avoid this, you need to learn to relax without thinking about why that situation happened. Tolerate uncertainty for a moment, as this will give you a wide perspective on the situation at hand.  Blaming others is not an effective solution of getting away from the situation. Relax for a moment to calm your nerves. Tell yourself “This is the situation at hand. Now, what is the best thing that I can do to resolve the circumstances?” Doing this can actually help you come up with a solution to the problem without having to blame others.  Keep In Mind that You Can Only Grow if You Accept the Feedback of Other People  Learning where you made wrong choices is the only way you can develop and improve as a person. You will not observe progress in life if you love yourself unconditionally. You must learn the capacity to respond to the feedback that life has given to you, free from any distorting effects.  There is no shame in admitting your faults and blaming yourself, instead of faulting others for the mistakes you have made. In fact, it shows courage. It means that you are brave enough to face the consequences of the actions you have made. It can show the real strength of your character.  Learn the Habit of Admitting Your Mistakes  What is your reaction when things go wrong? Do you find yourself feeling worked up or angry? Do you feel shocked? Do you immediately blame other people for your mistakes? If you always dish out the fault to others to escape your responsibility, you will become a negative person. As well, you will get used to this bad habit and this habit will be the cause of your sufferings over time.  But, it doesn’t mean that you have to be quick to blame yourself. Let a moment pass before you admit to your family, your partner, or co-workers your mistakes. They will understand you and respect you for doing so.  Forget Faulting Others and Focus on the Solution  If people feel that you blame them unreasonably and unfairly, they will resent you and a time will come that they will hate you. This can result in conflicts between you and your partner, colleagues, or business partner. Tell them that things have already happened and you need to focus on how to make things better.

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Seeking Permission

Early in your life, you learned to follow rules and discovered that there are circumstances where you must obtain permission to do the things that you want to do. This begins at home when you need your parent’s permissions to stay up past midnight, to go out with your friends, and so on. However, now you are all grown up and you don’t really need to get permission for many things. But occasionally you will still need to seek permission for something. You may need permission to arrive late for school or work or to participate in extracurricular activities.  Your life changes once you reach adulthood. However, you’re still surrounded by situations where you need to seek permission and get approval to do the things you want. During your university or college years, you will need approval to enroll in your chosen path of study. At the workplace, you will need other people’s approval to leave early, arrive late, or to be absent.   Stop Asking for Permission  The permission-seeking processes exists also in people’s lives who need licensing. In such situations, you need to seek formal approval to engage in activities like getting married, driving your own car, owning a dog, building a garden shed, and so on. The world the surrounds you has made you accustomed to seeking permissions for activities that made it difficult to recognizing the occasions that do not need the approval of others. In fact, there are times when outside consent is not needed. People need to find ways to give themselves the permission they need to do something.  This can be the case when we use you age to give yourself permission to do certain things or activities. People also use the number of faults in their current workplace to give themselves consent to leave and look for new employment that interests them more. People also use their family obligations or the demands of their work to give themselves permission to turn down invitations for events that they don’t care to attend.  It is highly important that you recognize the situations that you don’t need outside approval to do. Go ahead and feel free to proceed. It is doing things you want without seeking permission from others that lifts your confidence and increases your enjoyment of life.  You do not need permission to live the life you dream of. In reality, you are the only one who can give approval to your life anyways. You are responsible for the majority of things that have had happened in your life. If you complain about your current job, who do you think applied for it? If you want to quit your job, who do you think will decide to do it? There are great doors and opportunities out there waiting for you, but only if you choose to take them. You can blame your family obligations, workloads, and other things in your life for not reaching your goals, but it’s actually you that’s getting in your way.  You have been taught to submit yourself to living an ordinary life while hiding your true self. But, living this way will not allow you to enjoy life. You only live once, so you need to do what you want and what you think is right for you. It’s time to wake up and live the way you want.  There are two ways which you can live life. You can spend the rest of your life complaining about how the world seems to be against you, about your job, about how things could have been better if you have spent more time on it or more money.  Or, you can start taking responsibility for your life and begin to actually start living. What if you quit your job and try something different or what if you start your own business instead of dealing with your boss that sucks? Everything is up to you. It’s your life, so you need to have fun living it. After all, the only permission that you need is from yourself.